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Associate CounsellorElmira Fakhr, RPC-c

About

** I am currently accepting new clients (in-person and online) for individual and relationship counselling. Sessions can be conducted in English, Farsi or Turkish.

I am a Registered Professional Counsellor Candidate (RPC-C #4406) with the Canadian Professional Counseling Association (CPCA). I am currently accepting new clients (in-person and online) for individual and couples counselling.

You might find yourself searching for counselling at this time because you are overwhelmed, lost, lonely, feeling powerless, anxious, or depressed. Perhaps you are questioning the meaning of life, wanting to explore your core values or, you desire a deeper understanding of your existence in the world. No matter where you are in your life you have choice – even when it doesn’t feel this way. 

We all have a unique journey. I will be there to shine a light on the road ahead so you can see your path, and yourself, more clearly. I offer you my hand so we can walk together – I will be there for you as you face your challenges. You do not have to be alone as we will navigate the way together. 

I offer support in these areas:

  • Depression and anxiety 
  • Childhood trauma 
  • Family issues
  • Career and environment change 
  • Immigration and cultural adjustment 
  • Relationship coaching and recovering intimacy
  • Recovering from abuse and violence in relationship
  • Assertiveness and boundary coaching
  • Parenting issues 
  • Grief and loss

About Me (English)

I was born and raised in Iran and, in 2017, I made the difficult decision to immigrate to Canada. Restrictions forced onto women by the patriarchal Iranian government made it so difficult to live there that I chose to transition to a new country to give myself a chance at a better life.

After immigrating I went through a massive culture shock – I had to learn to speak and understand a new language, my already difficult marriage underwent more stress, I felt detached from my family, and I got homesick for months at a time. I was then that decided to do something to help myself. 

I have always been interested in the human psyche. In my hometown of Tabriz in Iran, I used to support local youth with the emotional challenges they experienced in their young lives – from family and relationship issues to the discovery of their wants and dreams. I decided to further my education so, I choose to do a Diploma of Professional Counselling at VCCT. 

As I learned more about how to support others I also began to learn more about myself. I learned what healthy family relationships could look like. I learned about toxic intimate relationships and realized that I had been living in one. I learned that I had likely struggled with depression, oppression, and repression with very little knowledge of these challenges and few support systems to help me move through them. 

As I had these realizations, I began a long personal journey of going to counselling in Canada. Coming from a country where equality was a challenge, I yearned to feel equal to others, to be respected in my relationship and to feel peace in my heart. My counselling journey helped me in so many ways: I learned how to set healthy boundaries, build healthy relationships, and see the beauty of my individuality. I could finally feel a sense of power over my own life.  I started out as a fearful immigrant woman — from an enmeshed family system, who never had the chance to be herself or have a voice — and I grew into someone who learned how to define her values and have true independence for the first time.

My counsellors helped me navigate this path so I could see myself more clearly. I felt supported, understood, less awkward, and more connected to people. 

During my education, I took part in an internship program. I worked with women who were suffering from family violence and living through abusive relationships. I saw couples struggling in their relationships and with their communication; couples who felt lost about how to connect despite the love they shared. It was here that I was able to practice my skills – offering my compassion, care, and knowledge to help these couples recover their intimacy and build better connections. This deepened my interest in supporting couples, especially immigrant couples, who are challenged with both relationship struggles and life adjustment struggles at the same time.

About Me (Turkish)

Ben bir İranlıyım ve memleketimde bir gençlik destek görevlisiydim. Gençlere bağımlılık, aile, kayıp, eğitim vb. sorunlarda yardımcı olmayı öğrendim.

Kanada’da göçmen bir kadın olarak ruh sağlığı, sağlıklı ilişkiler ve yaşam tarzı hakkında çok şey öğrendim. Engelleri ve öngörülemeyen durumları aştım. Göçmen kadınlarla ve onların adım attıkları yeni kültürel dünyaya uyum sağlama mücadeleleriyle derinden empati kuruyorum.

About Me (Farsi)

 پشتیبانی جوانان بودم. یاد گرفتم که به جوانان در مشکلاتشان مانند اعتیاد، خانواده، فقدان، تحصیل و غیره کمک کنم.

به عنوان یک زن مهاجر در کانادا، در مورد سلامت روان، روابط سالم و سبک زندگی چیزهای زیادی یاد گرفته ام. بر موانع و موقعیت های پیش بینی نشده غلبه کردم. من عمیقاً با زنان مهاجر و مبارزات آنها در سازگاری با دنیای فرهنگی جدیدی که وارد آن می شوند همدلی می کنم.

تجربیات زندگی من علاقه مرا به حمایت از زوج ها، به ویژه مهاجران، عمیق تر کرد. با دیدن میزان تغییرات زندگی و افزایش سطح اضطراب در دوره سازگاری، احساس کردم که داشتن فردی با تجربه مشابه به علاوه دانش سلامت روان می تواند به آنها در سفر کمک کند.

Counselling Philosophy / Therapeutic Approach

My goal is to provide a safe space for you to express yourself fully – you and your needs are the priority.  A non-judgmental approach and unconditional positive regard are my core values as a counsellor. I believe that you need the space to be heard and understood before you can move forward into change. Each person is different – and has unique needs and challenges – therefore, I make use of many modalities so I can cater my approach to each individual client.

The modalities I rely on are:

  • Adlerian
  • Existential
  • Gestalt
  • Reality & Solution Focused Therapy
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • Family Systems
  • Feminist Approach

Education & Training

Diploma of Professional Counselling (with a focus on family and intimacy in relationships)
Vancouver College of Counsellor Training (VCCT), 2018 – 2019

Masters, English Language and Literature
Tabriz Azad University, Iran, 2011-2015

Continuing Education Workshops:

  • Existential Analysis 2019-2021
  • Counseling for Intimacy in Relationship Certificate-VCCT 2022/2023

Availability

I am available for in-person or online sessions on Saturdays (10am-6pm). Sessions can be conducted in English, Turkish and Farsi.

Session Prices

Individual Counselling: $125 including GST for 60 minutes | $180 including GST for 90 minutes
Relationship Counselling: $140 including GST for 60 minutes | $190 including GST for 90 minutes

Office Address

Unit G – 2802 St. John’s Street
Port Moody, BC
V3H 2C1

Accessibility

There is a flat, street-level entrance to the building. The entrance door does not have a button to automatically open the door. There is an all-genders washroom in the Centre.