What is Mental Health?

By Nasreen Gulamhusein, Co-Founder & Principal Counsellor

May is recognized as Mental Health Month — a time dedicated to increasing awareness, reducing stigma, and encouraging conversations about emotional wellbeing. While it is valuable to have a designated month to spotlight mental health, for therapists, counsellors, and mental health professionals, mental health is not something we focus on for 31 days a year.

Mental health is every month.

It influences how we think, feel, relate to others, cope with stress, and move through everyday life. Just as we pay attention to our physical health throughout the year, our mental wellbeing deserves ongoing care and attention too.

When many people hear the term “mental health,” they often think about mental illness, crisis, or struggle. But mental health is much broader than that. It is not simply the absence of anxiety, stress, or difficult emotions, nor is it about feeling happy all the time.

Good mental health includes resilience, self-awareness, connection, and the ability to navigate life’s challenges while still feeling grounded and supported.

Mental health is made up of many different components, all of which work together to shape our overall wellbeing.

Emotional Health

Emotional health refers to our ability to understand, express, and manage emotions in healthy ways. This does not mean always feeling calm or positive. Being emotionally healthy includes having space for stress, sadness, frustration, and uncertainty while also being able to experience joy, connection, and hope.

Emotional wellbeing often begins with recognizing what we are feeling and allowing ourselves compassion rather than judgment. Many of us are skilled at supporting others but far less practiced at extending that same care to ourselves.

Mental and Cognitive Health

This aspect of mental health relates to our thoughts, focus, and the ways we process experiences. Stress, burnout, grief, and anxiety can affect how we think and how we see ourselves.

At times, our minds can become overly critical or stuck in patterns that leave us feeling overwhelmed or discouraged. Paying attention to mental wellness means noticing these patterns and developing healthier ways of responding to ourselves and the situations around us.

This is often where increased self-awareness can make a deep and meaningful difference.

Social Connection

We’ve all heard the phrase, “humans are wired for connection.”  In basic, this means healthy relationships and a sense of belonging play an important role in our mental wellbeing.

Social health is not about having a large circle of friends or a full social calendar. Rather, it is about having meaningful relationships where we feel safe, supported, and understood. It also includes learning to communicate openly and set healthy boundaries when needed.

Sometimes protecting our mental health means reaching out for support, and other times it means saying no.

Physical Wellbeing

Mental and physical health are deeply connected. Sleep, nutrition, movement, stress levels, and rest all influence how we feel emotionally.

Sometimes when life feels overwhelming, we overlook the basics. Yet small things — getting enough rest, eating regularly, moving our bodies, spending time outside, or simply slowing down — can have a meaningful impact on how we cope and function.

Caring for our mental health does not always involve major changes; often, it starts with paying attention to the foundational things we need.

Purpose and Self-Compassion

Mental wellbeing is also shaped by how we view ourselves and our lives. Feeling connected to our values, relationships, purpose, and identity can provide a sense of meaning and steadiness, especially during difficult seasons.

Equally important is the way we speak to ourselves. Many people hold themselves to impossible standards or speak internally in ways they would never speak to someone they love.

Practicing self-compassion does not mean lowering expectations or avoiding accountability — it means learning to approach ourselves with kindness, especially when life feels hard.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy can play an important role in supporting mental health, and not only during times of crisis.

Many people seek therapy when they are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck, or emotionally exhausted. Others come to therapy simply because they want to better understand themselves, strengthen relationships, or learn healthier ways of coping.

Therapy offers a dedicated space to process emotions, reflect on experiences, gain perspective, and develop practical tools for managing life’s challenges. It can help people better understand patterns, improve emotional regulation, and build resilience.

Seeking support is not a sign that something is wrong.

In many ways, it is an investment in overall wellbeing.

As Mental Health Month reminds us, conversations about mental wellness matter. But the reality is that mental health deserves our attention all year long. Caring for ourselves emotionally, physically, and relationally is not something reserved for difficult seasons or moments of crisis.

Mental health is part of everyday life.

 

Understanding and Navigating Postpartum Depression and Anxiety

Therapeutic CounsellingHaving a baby is often talked about as one of the most joyful moments in a person’s life. However, it’s important to acknowledge that the postpartum period can also be incredibly emotionally and physically challenging . It’s common for new parents to experience a wide range of emotions, including stress, exhaustion and anxiety. In some cases, this can escalate into postpartum depression and anxiety.

At Breathing Space Counselling, we understand that postpartum depression and anxiety can have a significant impact on the birthing parent and their family. That’s why we offer counselling services specifically tailored to help new parents navigate these challenges.

In this blog post, we’ll take a closer look at postpartum depression and anxiety, and provide some tips for coping and seeking support.

Understanding Postpartum Depression and Anxiety

Postpartum depression and anxiety (PPD/PPA) are both mental health conditions that can affect birthing parents. PPD/PPA affects about 10 – 16% of birthing parents in the first year of parenthood. They are different from the “baby blues,” which are a common experience that typically subside within a few days or weeks after giving birth. Postpartum depression and anxiety, on the other hand, can last for several months or longer.

Postpartum depression can include experiencing feelings of: sadness, hopelessness, overwhelm, guilt, anger or rage, worthlessness, loss of interest in life, difficulty with making decisions, thoughts of being a terrible parent, or frightening thoughts of harming yourself or your baby. It can also manifest as physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches, changes in appetite and/or sleep patterns.

PPD/PPA can begin during pregnancy or after baby is born, and can persist for weeks or even months after giving birth.
Postpartum anxiety, on the other hand, is marked by excessive worry and fear that can interfere with daily life. Symptoms may include: a racing heart, sweating, trembling, excessive worry & self-doubt, intrusive thoughts or images of harm to the baby, and difficulty sleeping. Postpartum anxiety can make it difficult to take care of oneself and the new baby.

Risk Factors

Some birthing parents are at higher risk of experiencing PPD/PPA. This includes people who:

  • Have experienced depression or anxiety in the past, or have a family history of depression or anxiety.
  • Had a traumatic pregnancy or birthing experience.
  • Went through a stressful or traumatic experience before or during pregnancy, such as loss of a loved one, infertility, miscarriage, etc.
  • Have a history of domestic violence, sexual or other abuse.
  • Had a traumatic childhood, such as loss of a parent, an absent parent, or a difficult relationship with a parent.
  • Are isolated and have too little support from friends, family and community.

Navigating Postpartum Depression and Anxiety

If you are experiencing postpartum depression or anxiety, it’s important to seek help as soon as possible. Here are some tips for navigating this experience:

  • Reach out for support: Talk to your partner, family members, or friends about how you’re feeling. Consider joining a support group for new parents or seek out professional counselling.
  • Practice self-care: Be gentle and kind to yourself about the fact that you’re a new parent and things are going to feel hard. Do small things for yourself that are meaningful to you and manageable, such as going for a short walk or eating a nourishing meal.
  • Prioritize sleep and exercise: Getting enough sleep and exercise can help improve your mood and reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.
  • Set realistic expectations: Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be the “perfect” parent — perfect doesn’t exist. It’s okay to not know, take things one day at a time and ask for help along the way.

The Pacific Postpartum Support Society is a wonderful free resource for parents experiencing PPD/PPA. They offer phone and text message support, as well as support groups for birthing parents and their partners. You can learn more about them here.

Our Counsellors at Breathing Space Counselling can also provide therapeutic counselling for postpartum depression and anxiety in our Port Moody offices or online/by telephone. We can help you to develop strategies to navigate your entry into parenthood, and work through difficult emotions in a safe and supportive environment.

Take the First Step

If you’re struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, please know, you’re not alone. Seeking help is a sign of strength and at Breathing Space Counselling we’re here to support you.

Contact us today to schedule a free phone consultation and take that first step towards your healing and recovery.